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Thursday, February 7, 2013

Letter from a fan

Should Abortion be Legal? 
The View of One Modern Christian girl:
 
        I have never really been in favor of abortion. I am among those who do believe that life does begin at conception, and it is a very miraculous wonder. I was raised in a Christian home, by loving parents,who were hard-working, God-fearing people who taught me to love andto serve God with all of my heart and being; or at least to desire that and try my best to achieve that.  I was taught that a baby, or life ingeneral is a gift from God..and yes, I still believe that. However, I am not a perfect person by any means. I, too, struggle with sin and comeshort of the glory of God like ALL human beings, be them Christian ornot. We are all the same to God...whether we believe in Him, love Him,or serve Him, or not. I also, being as wonderfully humanly flawed, have struggled and even questioned my very faith and the things that I hadalways believed, especially the last few years.

     I have struggled financially, with relationships, had a bad abusive marriage, a bad divorce, my ex has our son, having problems finding a job since I gotlaid off, I was badly injured in a car wreck almost 5 years ago (which left me with bad back problems and pain that has to be treated withnarcotic pain killers or I can’t take the pain and live a normal life), I have had problems finding another good mate, my step-dad just died of cancer and he was only 57, and I had to come back “home” to Al to help my 66 year old mother. So, as you can see, I have a lot of badthings to deal with and my plate is very full.
 As you can imagine, I doget overwhelmed, upset, stressed out, depressed, bitter, and yes...even angry at God...and shake my fist at Him...I am very human..and I by no means, just because I do happen to be a Believer and love the Lord,am perfect...I am very imperfect in fact. I question things, I struggle and wonder what to believe any more, since we are the age of information technology, internet, and fast ways of communicating and getting, receiving, and reading different things that people write, be it fact or fiction or their view or whatever, and it sometimes can get plain ol’ confusing with all the different views and all of people’s different beliefs and ideologies.

     Anyway, back to the topic. I felt I needed to give a bit of detailabout me, my up-bringing, my views, and my own personal trials and such so you can get the full picture of what I am trying to say. Thanksfor your patience because I’m sure you are now saying...”please, girl, do arrive at the point.” LOL...anyway, I try my best to be a good person and a good Christian. I don’t mind admitting when I have sinned, or when I am wrong, I try not to judge, I always repent to God and to the person (when I can) that I may have judged or wronged, and I do try to love, respect, listen to, and try to understand the plight and the many different feelings and views of others. So, with that said, I do try not to judge others for their choices and views in life, even if I do not personally believe in their choices, views, or ideologies, be it religious or otherwise. Who am I to judge?  In fact, who is ANYONE, to judge others. I mean, really? Only God is qualified and worthy enough to judge others for their choices and actions.  It is between them and God really, not us and the person individually, not even between the person (or women in this case) and the law-makers.  As God loved us so  much, He gave us freedom of choice or free will if you will.  He even gave the angels free will, and one third of them decided to rebel or fall. With that said, a woman should be able to decide if for whatever reason or for whatever bad circumstances they may be in—be it their health will not permit a healthy, viable pregnancy, or if it is a product of rape or incest.  They should be able to decide what to do, whether to have and keep the baby, have the baby and give it up for adoption if they are not ready for a baby (or don’t want it), or make the very difficult and heart-wrenching decision to have an abortion or not.  I don’t know anyone who was excited or who bragged about having an abortion, because it is not a pleasant choice or a pleasant procedure to go through. It is an extremely hard and drastic choice. I am quite sure that there is a lot of emotional and mental anguish going on in the woman’s head while trying to decide what to do,and once she decides to abort, I’m sure it is not something she really wants to do, but for whatever reason, she may feel it is the only way to go at that moment in time. They may or may not have the same faith and convictions as I do, for whatever reason. I mean, yeah, God could heal that person or the baby if something is deemed wrong with the woman (health-wise) or the embryo or fetus. I personally know several women who were said that there was something that was wrong with their babies, and that they should just terminate them pregnancies, but through faith and everyone at my church praying for them, their babies were healed (one was said to have a hug tumor on its head, they saw it on the ultrasound..and after prayer and a few weeks or so later, they did another ultra sound, and miraculously it was gone and another one had an amniocenteses test and found that their baby would be born with Down’s Syndrome, and they were a young couple in their early 20s, and their child was born normal and healthy).
 
     With that said, I know that everyone who needs healing or a miracle doesn’t always get it, and I don’t know why.  And yes, sometimes a baby can be a blessing, even if unexpected, unplanned, and maybe even unwanted at first, even if the girl is not with the father (either they broke up or they weren’t together or very serious in the first place orfor whatever reason).  But, since everyone is different, their levels of faith and beliefs (or lack their of) are different, and not everyone is the same, nor are their situations the same,  some may not want to go through with the pregnancy and wait for something bad to happen (like if they were told the baby was deformed or diseased or if they were told they may possibly die during pregnancy or delivery or if they just think that they are in such a terrible situation and time in their life where having and taking proper care of a child may seem out of reach, even if they want the child or not at the moment).
 
     Unfortunately, not everyone puts their faith and trust in God. If weall were perfect in faith in God or something..I guess this wouldn’teven be an issue then, would it?  With all of those points made, I just personally don’t want to see poor, frightened women, be reduced to seeking shady, back-alley,risky, dangerous, and illegal procedures that will either kill them or that would leave them infertile (if they survived) where they could not conceive or bare any children if they decided that they want some in the future when they are in a better situation, nor do I want to see them very ill from an infection (where they end up in the hospital if they survived).  Some hard core fanatics may say that if a woman died ,became ill, or became infertile because of a faulty abortion, that they deserve it and it’s God’s way of “punishing” them for their sins.  That is simply rubbish, because if that were true, we would ALL be dead and/or punished, because NO ONE on this planet is perfect and without sin, even Believers would be punished. God is a loving, forgiving God, not a cruel tyrant that won’t forgive us when we sin or do wrong. I have some sad news for some of you who think your shit don’t stink and that you haven’t sinned...because your shit does stink, and it stinks very bad, just like mine does, and you, I, and EVERYONE on this damn rock has sinned somehow, someway. So, get that punishment crap out of your head, because all you are doing is Satan’s work of causing hurt,bad feelings, division, and disruption of peace and unity, and that is exactly what Satan wants. I have news for you abusive, judgmental Prolifers...You are NOT helping this situation or those girls when you yell profane, hurtful, hateful stuff to these girls, send death threats to them, their families and friends, the abortion doctors, nurses, and staff, and send smudge letters “telling” on them to their friends, family, neighbors, employers, employees, etc. You are being bullies and spreading hate, ill-feelings, and hurt, and you are not actually doing God’s work or Kingdom Business, you are doing Satan’s bidding and
being his advocate.  Spreading love, compassion, understanding, praying for people, and/or being their for them...now that is doing Kingdom Business, that is doing God’s work. When you judge others and take the position of Judge away from God, you are trying to be Him, and no one can be Him.  As I Mentioned earlier, God is the ONLY qualified and righteous Judge.   Issues of sin and right and wrong are His decision to make, not ours.  God is the only One who really knows our hearts and motives, and He does look at one’s heart. He is the only One who can see it.   When judgmental Christians preach and judge others, it actually will further harden others hearts to not only not listen or believe in what that person says, but to harden their heart’s towards God and that person will either think God is not good and will not wantany part of Him or will make others think that He doesn’t exist and /or just makes the person more inclined to not even seek Him out or not want to “taste and see that the Lord is good,” as the Bible says.  Also,we must remember what Jesus said in Mathew 7: 1-5:

1. “Do not judge others, or you too will be judged.
2. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3. Why do you look at the speck of saw dust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
4. How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
5. You hypocrite! First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

     So, now I hope you understand what I have been trying to say. Different people (in this case, it is women) have different situations and feelings on how to handle their situation.  More likely than not, they may not even want to terminate an unplanned, unwanted, or an unhealthy pregnancy.  They may feel that is the only thing that they can do at that time. Only they and God knows what is going on in their lives, their heads, and their hearts. There needs to be a happy medium reached on this issue, where a woman (no matter how old they are or what their individual situation may be) can have at least some say so over their bodies and their lives.  I just don’t want to see another girl either die from a back-alley illegal procedure or end up killing or hurting themselves and/or their unborn child because they feeltrapped or hopeless if they were forced to have a child that they may not can properly care for.  If the child is a result of some unfavorable crime or situation against the woman or from a bad, abusive relationship, the woman may feel like they may not can give the child the love he or she needs, nor be a very good, nurturing mother to that child. All people of reproductive age should also be fully educated on how their bodies work too (reproduction, pregnancy,and fetal development) and have proper information and access to adequate birth control to help with this issue as well.

     So, please pro-lifers, while I can understand and respect your passion for your beliefs (hell, I don’t like the idea of abortion either, but it happens, so we have to accept it), don’t be pushy, abusive, manipulative, don’t lie or falsify information or those disturbing photos you hold on your signs and pass out in your pamphlets. If you have to lie, be abusive (physically or verbally), manipulate, or harass these girls to prove your point, especially when you bring God and the Church into the mix, then something is wrong. You give God, Christians, and the Church in general a bad rep and think that God and the Church is evil because after all God (and Jesus) and the Church stands for truth justice, and goodness. God doesn’t need you to lie or be abusive (attack people physically, verbally, or use threats) to get His business done or to carry out His will. So, love one another, be kind to others, be supportive, and understanding like Jesus would be. Remember, Jesus also said this in Mathew 5:22 “But, I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.” This means not only men, but women. So, if you are angry at women who have gotten abortions, and you hate them and the men behind them, you are going to be subject to be judged too. So, prolifers, stop judging pro-choicers, girls who feel the need to terminate pregnancies for whatever reason, and stop making all Christians look like lunatics and hateful, judgmental people. Pro choicers ,stop judging pro-lifers because they aren’t mature enough in their walk with God (if they really are a real Christian in the first place) or if they are not really Christians (and they are just using the Church to stand behind them to make all us Christians look like bad, hypocritical, poor examples of Ambassadors of Christ), or  if they just have a hard time conveying their message in a calm, nice manor out of being immature in their walk with Christ. They may not know how to adequately convey their message in a positive way, so just walk away and don’t listen to them if they can’t be respectful and nice about what they have to say. It is most certainly not God’s fault or all Christian’s fault that they are fanatics and are conducting themselves badly. I don’t mean to sound like a cliché, but we just all need to get along, and love each other, even if we have differences in opinions, and/or beliefs , and/or religion. Life in today’s world is already hard enough without everyonehating and judging each other because we have our differences.

     Thank you for taking the time to read this, and I’m sorry if it seemed too long, too wordy, too repetitive (I just wanted to get my point across), or if you feel it was preachy (I didn’t mean to come off that way.).  And even though I have not done the things that the some of the more fanatical Christians have done, allow me to humbly apologize to you and say that I’m very sorry that you have had that kind of experiences with other Christians. Also, I am very sorry if I have stepped on anyone’s toes, confused anyone, or offended anyone in any way, shape, or form.

ZeeBee

1 comment:

  1. Dear Misguided ZeeBee...You ask (rather, plead) that all "Prochoicers, stop judging pro-lifers because they aren’t mature enough in their walk with God (if they really are a real Christian in the first place) or if they are not really Christians (and they are just using the Church to stand behind them to make all us Christians look like bad, hypocritical, poor examples of Ambassadors of Christ), or if they just have a hard time conveying their message in a calm, nice manor out of being immature in their walk with Christ." Sadly, this begs the question: what does a "real" Christian look/sound like? We've been on the front line as clinic escorts for YEARS, and aside from the fact Muslims, Atheists, Jews, and just about everyone else is absent, only CHRISTIANS are the ones demonstrating at clinics and only CHRISTIANS are the ones trying to pass restrictive laws. Is there a trick to identifying REAL Christians, because so far, I can't find it.

    You say "[Christians] may not know how to adequately convey their message in a positive way, so just walk away and don’t listen to them if they can’t be respectful and nice about what they have to say. It is most certainly not God’s fault or all Christian’s fault that they are fanatics and are conducting themselves badly." Walk AWAY? Ignore their hate speech, ignore them killing doctors, police and clinic workers just because they're rude or fanatical about their religion?? Seriously...I should do this because you're a better Christian than they are and you asked nicely?

    "I don’t mean to sound like a cliché, but we just all need to get along, and love each other, even if we have differences in opinions, and/or beliefs , and/or religion. Life in today’s world is already hard enough without everyone hating and judging each other because we have our differences." Here's my cliché: you're preaching to the choir here, ZeeBee. You should shouting your message from the rooftops, from the pulpits, from the government legislatures for GOD's sake. Because if you ARE the voice of moderation, of love, of maturity and NOT speaking out often and publicly, then you, dear ZeeBee, are part of the problem, not the "live and let love" silent majority of "mature Christians." Silence kills as much as vocal hate does.

    Only women can get pregnant. Only women can have children. When all the laws are passed and we lose our right to choose, well anything actually: your choice to divorce a bad spouse, to say NO to a rapist, to say NO to an infertile couple who demand you have their baby, to say NO to sex at all, under any circumstances (that's coming too, by the way), to say NO to covering your face and ankles with black sheets...then maybe your God can fix all that...in another 2000 years.
    Love...Zena

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